Why I Don't Want You to Have a Pinterest Wedding

grace and serendipity - why i don't want you to have a pinterest wedding

Pinterest. There is a pretty good chance that by now you have probably heard of it.  A few years ago, when it first came to be, I swooned and completely fell in love with it.  Pinning, pinning, and more pinning took place multiple times of the day for me.  I personally love to use it, and if you follow me, you know this as hardly a day goes by where I don't pin something either new or re-pin something from someone else.

However, I think Pinterest all depends on how you use it.  A few weeks back, a friend of mine told me that she wanted to have a Pinterest wedding.  Intrigued, I asked her what she meant.  I didn't even elaborate, curious where she was going with that thought.  She replied, stating, "I want it to be beautiful and have tons of details and have everyone want to repin my wedding images, because everything on there is always so perfect."  I asked her why she wanted to have that, and she told me that Pinterest was where all of the pretty weddings went to be shown off.  That statement stopped me in my tracks, and my mind went spinning in so many different directions.

It's great to use Pinterest as a resource - but use it for that - as a resource.  I have hundreds of pins on my page, grouped by categories, thoughts, and ideas, because sometimes it's easier to show a picture of what I'm trying to convey in my head, or a bride is looking for something specific, and rather than trying to find something, it's easier to pull pieces of pictures to show what I'm trying to describe.

I had a chat with a photographer recently where a bride had handed her a long list of wedding shots she would like before her wedding day, and the same bride had emailed her a link to her Pinterest board of photos that she had pinned, requesting that the photographer took the majority of the photos that she found because they were all good photos.  However, if you give your photographer that you have hired, a professional, someone who is artistic and creative, who probably will think outside of the box on their own, a list of "must dos" for your artistic or creative wedding shots, you aren't really giving them the chance to be the artistic and creative professionals that you hired them to be.  Photographers are just that - artists that photograph memories in a distinctive and creative way, and each photographer has their own style.  You may have a few special requests, and that is perfectly okay, but on your wedding day, trust that they will bless you with amazing and creatively captured artistic photos that are their style, not copied from another photographer's style that you found on Pinterest.

When planning your wedding, there is a pretty good chance that you will have quite a few conversations about the details of the day - from flowers and menus to centerpieces and invitations, all of those details are very important.  However.  Those details are the ones that you'll remember twenty years from now.  Would you rather remember those details with love, knowing that they were significant, or remember them as the little extras you didn't need but you had because you saw them on Pinterest, even though you didn't have a connection to them?

grace and serendipity - why i don't want you to have a pinterest wedding

Recently, I was chatting with one of my new brides about her wedding, and the details came up.  She had looked on Pinterest for ideas, but I could tell from the look on her face, she just wasn't happy with what she had found.  However, when I switched the conversation away from Pinterest, we started talking about her grandparents, and her face lit up.  She talked about how when she was a little girl, how her grandpa used to let her pick a wisteria flower from their vine on the fence every time she came over to their house, putting it into an empty salt shaker that he would substitute as a vase.  We talked about how on her first date with her fiance, they went out only for dessert, where they shared a piece of key lime pie that was some of the most delicious she ever remembers tasting.  We talked about her love for the color pink, and how she just couldn't imagine her wedding day without it there somewhere, since it so completely was a part of who she was.  Those are the details that matter. That is how you make a wedding pretty.   There are no rules saying what you can or can't do when it comes to your wedding.  And just because you can't find many pins on that idea, doesn't mean it's not a good one.

In twenty years, when you look back at your wedding day, I hope you don't see a Pinterest wedding.  I hope you see one that was perfect because it was filled with memories like the wisteria you had in honor of your grandpa.  Or the key lime pie instead of a wedding cake you shared with your husband in honor of your first date.  Or the color pink being used throughout your wedding, because it was your favorite color.  Don't get so caught up in the pretty other weddings that you see on Pinterest that you forget about your own inspirational ideas that you already are surrounded with.   Get caught up in the pretty that is already your life, and celebrate your own details that will make your wedding just that - yours.

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Photos above from my own wedding day from Funes Photography - my wedding bouquet is also pictured, with a photo of my grandpa attached so that he was there to walk me down the aisle with my dad.